"Looking?"

"Looking?"

Update: 2025-04-30
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Dating apps are a mess. In this episode, Shane spirals lovingly through queer dating fatigue, from swiping till your thumbs hurt to realizing you’re just a "vibe" in someone’s situationship. He tackles the illusion of infinite options, the ache of feeling like a placeholder, and the line between love and validation — all while being a Brown bisexual man in a sea of bias. This one's for anyone who's ever been ghosted, tokenized, or just tired of pretending to “look” without looking too thirsty.

Spoiler: The apps may not see you, but this podcast does.


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"Looking?"

"Looking?"

Shane Lamba